How Would You Feel?

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Track Number: 
9

I think most if us know how it feels to be treated unfairly or unkindly, and we don’t like that feeling at all. Still, I sometimes hurt others because of a situation I’m in or because someone else is doing it too. If I remembered to stop and think about the other person’s feelings, I might act differently.

Lyrics: 

Copyright John Farrell 2002

A small boy walked home
One rainy Halloween
Two big kids were waiting
On the dark side of the street
Those big kids came over
And knocked that boy down
Took all his candy
And left him there on the ground

How would you feel
If that happened to you?
What would you say?
What would you do?
Stop for a minute
And stand in his shoes
How would you feel
If that happened to you?

Nobody wanted her
She didn’t fit in
With her on your team
It was harder to win
So when teams were chosen
The best kids went quick
And day after day
She was the last one picked

Refrain

He acted and looked
So much different than us
We taunted and teased him
From the back of the bus
We even laughed
When he started to cry
Our words were like stones
He had nowhere to hide

One day at school
A new kid appeared
She dressed sort of strange
And she talked really weird
You could tell she was scared
But she tried to pretend
So I asked her her name
And said, “I’ll be your friend."

Sheet Music: 

Copyright John Farrell 

C                                              G       C 
A small boy walked home one rainy Halloween

C                                                                             G
Two big kids were waiting on the dark side of the street

           F                      G                C                      A-
Those big kids came over and knocked that boy down

       F                    G                           F          G      C           C7
They took all his candy and left him there on the ground 

 F                       G                                   C
How would you feel if that happened to you

 F                        G      C
What would you say? What would you do?

F                G                 C                  A-
Stop for a minute and stand in his shoes

       F                 G                    F        G   C

How would you feel if that happened to you?

C                                                  G               C
He acted and looked so much different than us

C                                                                               G
We taunted him and teased him from the back of the bus

           F             G                   C           A-
Our laughter, it hurt, and he started to cry

          F                        G                F              G    C           C7
Our words were like stones he had no where to hide

D                               A             D
One day at school a new kid appeared

D                                                                             A
She talked kind of strange and she dressed really weird

G                                     A                   D          B-
You could tell she was scared but she tried to pretend

G                               A                   G         A       D
So I asked her her name and said, "I'll be your friend."

The song examines situations that involve bullying, teasing, and acceptance. In the first two verses children treat each other in ways that are hurtful and in the third verse a child performs a simple act of kindness by saying, "I'll be your friend.

Suggested Activities   (Themes: Teasing, Bullying, Tolerance, Empathy)

1.  Have a Class Discussion about Bullying, Teasing, and Empathy

Listen to the song and then have a discussion about how it feels when someone treats you unkindly or unfairly. Explain that the lyrics, "Stop for a minute and stand in his shoes," are a way of asking the listener to imagine how the other person feels. Children appreciate hearing adults tell about things that happened to them when they were young. Tell students that the first two verses are about things that happened to songwriter John Farrell when he was a boy. In the first verse John was "bullied." In the second verse John was one of the kids "teasing" another child.

2. Write a Letter to One of the Characters

Ask students to "stand in the shoes" of one of the characters in the song. Have students write a letter from one character to another explaining how you felt or why you are sorry.  Examples; The boy who was bullied writes to the bullies; One of the children who teased on the bus writes to the child who was teased; The new girl writes to the girl who welcomed her